Secretly dating my boss
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In the SHRM survey, 99% of the workplaces that had explicit rules regarding romance prohibited relationships between an employee and their direct supervisor. Kristin Hege, 38, was the kitchen manager at a Ruby Tuesday restaurant in North Carolina when she hired Justin Hege, 36, the man who a year later would become her husband. "It’s not unrealistic for managers and staff to hang out in the restaurant business,’’ she says. But the pair also understood that if their romance was discovered, she would be fired.“It was just a matter of time before we got busted,'' Hege says. He had management (positions) in his sights, so we knew we had to establish a plan.’’Both applied for management positions at two separate Ruby Tuesday restaurants in South Carolina, and once they got their new jobs, they told their co-workers that they were romantically involved.
They eventually left the company after getting married in August 2004.
If a couple doesn't disclose a workplace relationship that seems to be in violation of corporate policy, Yost of SHRM says "I'd feel more obligated to let human resources know of my concerns.''Ultimately, even if your romance began at the office, putting a little distance between corporate and personal lives can be a good thing, says Baker, who met her wife in January 2008 and began dating her eight months later."It was a bonding moment at the beginning of the relationship,'' she said about sharing workday experiences when they were previously employed by the same company.
He told me he fell for me the second I walked out of the dressing room in that Norma Kamali dress. This was my first job in high-end retail in Los Angeles and I was going to explore all of its benefits. I prayed that he wouldn’t kiss me when he got out of the car to let me off at my apartment.
If there's no rule requiring it, co-workers don't necessarily need to rush to their personnel department as soon as they start dating.And if the couple splits up, the staff may pick sides, "creating more of a morale issue among employees who weren't directly involved in the relationship,'' Yost says. Managers weren’t supposed to date employees.’’Playing cat and mouse was a little fun at first, she says.If the pair is too uncomfortable to continue working together, "it could potentially cost you both employees.''An office romance can be particularly problematic if an employee begins dating his or her supervisor, or another staff member with a much higher rank. Once, she had flowers delivered to Justin at work, knowing he couldn’t reveal who had sent them. I was just trying on the dress to see if it was worth it with my newly acquired employee discount. I tried not to get too tipsy from the free booze at the Dodgers game.
I wore that dress the first time we went out — off the sales floor, that is. I held the same hope every time we were together until, slowly, my grip began to lessen. We want to publish your story I told him I had promised myself I wouldn’t get involved with anyone from work considering I was young, a female and already had a lot to prove.
"It might be a consensual, healthy relationship, but once that’s exposed in a work environment, you can’t always control how that’s going to be perceived and how that might come up years later.’’Still, "no matter what policy or program a company has in place,'' Haefner says, workplaces romances are "going to happen.''Some 41% of workers have dated a colleague, according to a Career Builder survey released last week.