Internet dating first phone conversation
Of course, exchanging a barrage of emails – even phone calls or Skyping– can seem more secure.
You can ‘get to know’ someone from behind the safety of a screen.
Note that I used the word “impression” because it’s not about who you really are: it’s about someone stereotyping you before they get to know you, based on little things you might say, or not say, that usually don’t reflect who you are deep down. After interviewing more than 1,000 single men and women for my new book, “Have Him At Hello,” I have 9 tips to help you shine on the phone: 1. Be fun: If there’s a lull in the conversation flow, try to be fun and spark some banter. Relax him/her: Make the person feel relaxed and confident by acting happy that s/he called and giving positive feedback on their conversation skills (even if his/her phone skills aren’t great-the initially shy or awkward ones usually make better partners in the long run than the instantly slick, charismatic ones! For example, tell someone, “I had a rough day at work, but your call cheered me up! Know when the party’s over: End the conversation quickly when you sense the energy level drooping.
Use a Land Line: Try to speak on a land line whenever possible. Give intentional responses: If he/she says something vague such as “How are you? Pick a neutral, third party topic, and make a comment (or ask a question) about it. But blame it on an external factor rather than sounding bored.
There’s nothing more irritating than spotty reception and always saying, “What? Be aware of your tone: Always use a cheerful voice, even if something he says annoys you, or if you’ve had a bad day. ”, remember that is not an inquiry about your health or your mood. I just returned from an exhilarating run in Central Park with my best friend from college.” What does that tell him/her about you? For example, “Hey, did you happen to see David Letterman last night? For example, “Oh, I just realized it’s pm and I didn’t call my grandma yet to wish her happy birthday!
No longer do we see tabloid headlines screaming ‘meet the couple who found love ON THE INTERNET!
’ For Britain’s 16 million singles, looking for love online is the norm.
But have you ever thought about what kind of first impression you make by telephone?