Dating saying too much too soon
There are many milestones – moving from online chat to the phone; adding them as a friend on a social network; letting them know where you live; introducing them to your family – if you try and do it all too soon you may scare them off.
While you might be inclined to start texting this new guy or gal in the same old way you’ve texted every other flame before them, don’t get caught in this trap! It’s time to get creative, reevaluate your digital communication skills and learn a few new things about texting for your relationship, like how to keep him engaged via text without coming on too strong or everyone’s favorite lesson, how to seduce him via text. You’re not treating it like you would a normal conversation I have a lot of readers ask how often they should text someone.
I’m not advocating that you remove the restraining order. I’ve dealt with both ends of the spectrum but never the middle ground.But that feeling is useless if he doesn’t make a consistent effort to see you.Literally ALL that matters – if you want a healthy relationship – is how quickly he follows up to say, “When can I see you again?And strangely, despite all this attention – BECAUSE of all this attention – you are immediately turned off. He treats you amazingly…or at least he did the last time you saw him. The very qualities that are the MOST indicative of the potential to build a life together – consistency and dedication – are the ones that you value LEAST.
The new guy is a shameless puppy dog, eager for your affection, desperate to win you over to feel as strongly as he does. He gives no indication that he wants a future with you, and little indication that he even wants a present with you. I ain’t blaming you; as a dating coach, I’m just pointing out what may not obvious.The first weeks and months are the time to have fun, to find out what makes each other tick, to look forward to seeing each other and explore what you like doing together.