Dating ready to move on
I also believed I owed it to my potential dates to be as honest with myself as possible.
They’d be taking their cues from my words and actions, opening up to me, and — if all went well — believing in a future with me that only existed if I was truly ready. For nearly 20 years, I hadn’t gone on a single romantic date with anyone other than my wife, and now I was seeing someone else.
That was just a side effect of her caring, nurturing nature.
The longer I date, the less guilty I feel — the more natural it seems. I accept that I could have done things differently, and apply myself to the future.
When you lose someone, there’s a feeling of being under a microscope, your every move examined by friends, family, coworkers, and connections on social media. Like grief, the timeframe for each individual’s readiness is variable. Two things determined my own readiness to date: I’d accepted the loss and was interested in sharing more than just a bed with a woman.The waves of emotion that radiated out were more manageable.