Dating a single mother advice
Yes, some friends get priority, and family generally takes the top spot (behind yourself of course), but all of that shifts when you have a kid.Suddenly, their needs almost always come behind yours (OK, sometimes before yours, too) but ahead of everyone else.The idea that all single moms are dating with the exclusive goal of finding someone to marry us and alleviate some of the parenting burden and keep our kids from growing up in a Broken Home™ (*insert overly dramatic anguish face here*) is offensive, in addition to being laughably wrong in so many cases.Single moms date for as many different reasons as people without kids, and are as likely or unlikely to be open to a serious relationship as anyone else.Did we mention that we told the babysitter we'd be home by p.m., but there's hella traffic, and there's no way we're getting home anywhere close to on time?Don't freak out, especially if it's just to show us that you take the responsibilities of parenthood seriously.
Adjusting from one parent to two requires so many massive shifts and arduous transitional periods — no single mom is rushing to do all that work. I'm sure you're great and all, my dude, but no one is trying to crown you "dad" after like three solid dates.It's something most people aim to have regardless, but it's a thing we have had no choice but to learn to be great at.So do everyone a favor and, in the beginning anyway, put the kid thing out of your head.This doesn't mean that the single mom you're dating doesn't care about your needs.
I mean, don't ever date anyone who uses any part of their life to nullify their obligation to consider you.Especially in the early days of dating, talk to her about anything and everything else, just like you would anyone else, and let her show you how much she does (or doesn't) want her mom life to be a part of her dating life.